The stress of Lying

Someone has recently blogged about the stress of feeling guilt. This reminds me of lying. The smallest of fibs can cause a person to feel tremendously guilty and to really beat up on themselves. Even exaggerating something seems to come back and haunt my mind because I think about why I did it and if it was necessary. It usually isn’t. I think about pathological liars; those who obsessively lie as if it does not affect them. My mom and I joke constantly about this girl who I went to high school with. She was known, and not a good one. Whenever her sentences ended in “ask anyone, even ask my dad”, I knew instantaneously that it was a lie. I mean, no one was going to go out of our way to ask her dad about something completely outrageous. She never looked anyone in the eye either. She was always looking up or around during conversations. People who incorporate lying into their daily lives are interesting, though, because I think they start to believe their own stories. Have you ever met people who you really think believe that their lies are the truth? The more a person lies the easier it is to do. Convincing people that something is true means a repetition of the story. The more they hear about it and discuss it, the more intricate detail they add. Eventually, these people think their lies are the truth. Most people are offended that people don’t believe them. They dislike that someone thinks they are lying, although they are. Maybe some of you don’t understand what I am getting at because you don’t know people who are pathological liars. There must be some mental impairment which is causing them to forget the truth and believe lies.

This is a youtube clip of Dane Cook (the comedian) on lying. I have seen it a million times (this is a lie, more like 5) and can’t get enough of it!

Driving=Stress!

Dr. Franssen was not joking when she said there is a difference in old people and younger people driving. Older people must have a lower stress than those of students. If someone cuts me off, I am angry about it for the rest of the day, easily. Older people complain while it happens then drive along and essentially forget about it. Being from New York and living in Virginia for 3 years, I have spent plenty of time on route 81 and interstate 95, for 8 hours at a time. It’s kind of funny because when I took the road rage quiz for one of the case study assignments, the results gave me 8/10, in favor of road rage. I definitely have rage when people drive like a bat out of hell. Instead of cooling down and listening to music, I yell at the people, who clearly can’t hear me. Then I call my boyfriend, who responds with “oh, what an idiot”. This disappoints me because I want someone to yell with me. So we hang up and I call my best friend who tells me about a similar story of her own and we complain about that for awhile. Then, if I am still not satisfied with the amount of attention the person who cut me off is getting, I call my mom. This works every time because she reassures me that people like that need to get off the road and that I need to drive safely. So, what should have been a 1 minute incident actually lasts half an hour. Then, I see a car the same color as the previous one and just when I am starting to cool off, I get angry all over again and start mumbling to myself “what is this drive like a fool if you have a red car day?” Driving for long periods of time is so stressful and the initial stress causes a reaction which inevitably creates more stress! Go figure. Public transportation is probably the key to road trips.

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Depression: Is There an Anecdote?

I was slightly put off by Newsweek article about depression and placebo drugs. The alarming number of people who claimed medication worked for depression but actually got a placebo shocked me, especially since I know many people who claimed medication has helped them get through their own depression. But, I have learned in my Personality/Treatment that this is the same for therapy as well. Half of the time that people schedule appointments for therapy, they cancel before the appointment and claim that they no longer need it. This is because the simple thought of going to therapy and getting better makes them more optimistic. This is similar to the placebo effect because people are anticipating feeling better and therefore are in good moods thinking about the future. If I were going to receive drugs for depression and I were given a placebo, I wold not be upset. I would rather think that I am getting better without the altering of any neurotransmitters.

Stress, A Result of Stress

It is safe to say that media and a patriarchal society are in part responsible for the low self-image of women. I would like to add that it is more than likely that men feel pressure from standards of society as well. Women feel the need to be physically flawless, through the eyes of everyone but themselves. The ideal woman is supposedly sexy, well-rounded, skinny, and with porcelain skin. She is kind to everyone, great at cooking, and will be a trophy wife. But why is the media allowed to decide what defines a woman as perfect?  It is difficult to picture a society where media has little influence over our norms and our self-esteem. For those women who are curvy, have acne, and have any dreams to be anything but a stay-at-home/make more than 80% of what men make, life can be extremely stressful. For example, women who are healthy but are unhappy with their weight may become anorexic or bulimic. The psychological stress of society who tells them to be skinny is far too much to handle and women take extraordinary measures to look “perfect”. Meanwhile, they are bingeing and purging, which is bad for teeth and the esophagus, among many other things. Their bones become weak and very frail. Those who choose (if you can call it a choice) to omit food all together have rapid muscle loss.  But, why is it that a woman sees herself as fat when she sees her best friend, who is heavier than she is, as beautiful and healthy? The media portrays unrealistic goals of women and people are their own worst critics. The psychological stress that we get from striving to be “perfect” may lead to physical stressors when unhealthy measures are taken.

Laughter; an incurable disease

People say to smile and the world smiles back at you. This proves to be somewhat true. Smiling at someone eases them as well as yourself. The same goes for laughter. Laughter is relieving and fun. In stressful situations, people should smile and laugh even if it is not full-hearted. Even if it is temporary, it is believed to have positive effects on moods. The things that we stress about are not worth the health risks. Grades in classes are important but getting enough healthy food and sleep are more important. With psychological stressors eventually physiological stressors form. People need to take time to smile and laugh to reduce some stress.

Here are a few things to laugh about:

Stress Jokes – Expressions for high stress days…

1. You! Off my planet!!

2. Not the brightest crayon in the box now, are we?

3. Well, this day was a total waste of makeup.

4. Errors have been made. Others will be blamed.

5. I’m not crazy, I’ve just been in a very bad mood for 28 years.

6. Allow me to introduce my selves.

7. Sarcasm is just one more service we offer.

8. Whatever kind of look you were going for, you missed.

9. Do they ever shut up on your planet?

10. I’m just working here till a good fast-food job opens up.

11. I’m trying to imagine you with a personality.

12. Stress is when you wake up screaming and you realize you haven’t fallen asleep yet.

13. I can’t remember if I’m the good twin or the evil one.

14. I just want revenge. Is that so wrong?

15. You say I’m a witch like it’s a bad thing.

16. Nice perfume. Must you marinate in it?

17. Chaos, panic & disorder – my work here is done.

18. Everyone thinks I’m psychotic, except for my friends deep inside the earth.

19. Earth is full. Go home.

20. Is it time for your medication or mine?

21. Aw, did I step on your poor little bitty ego?

22. How do I set the laser printer to stun?

23. I’m not tense, just terribly, terribly alert.

24. When I want your opinion, I’ll give it to you.

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Enjoy!

REM sleep and dream analysis

Lately, a friend of mine has been having stressful, bad dreams every night. She somewhat jokingly asked me how to make herself not dream. Well, there is no way to help ourselves to having dreamless sleep. But, could we stop ourselves before we enter REM sleep every night? It would be interesting to study, and maybe scientists already have. What would be the effects if a person were woken up during the transition from Delta waves to REM sleep? In order to eliminate dreams, a person needs to be woken up before they reach the dream stage (stage 5). While it may be good in helping diminish dreams, we need REM sleep to help is restore our energy. If people are unable to fulfill an entire sleep cycle, they will not get the proper rest they need. Also, the existence of dreams may be more useful than the uneducated person knows. While dreaming, we may be enhancing underused brain pathways, facilitating problem-solving, and helping us to form memories of the day before.

http://www.webmd.com/mental-health/features/the-health-benefits-of-dreams

For fun, check out this website which claims it has the meanings of dreams

http://www.dreamforth.com/

Sexual Healing

Sex can help improve individual’s stress life in many ways. Physically, the exercise of sex is great for the body, as more physical exercises are. Cholesterol levels can increase as well as circulation throughout the body and cardiovascular health increases. Immediately before orgasm, the hormone oxytocin is released five times the normal level, releasing endorphins which may help release mild headaches as well as relieve other mild pain one may have. For women, sex may be more beneficial because the female hormone increases, reducing risk of heart disease which is the leading cause of death for women in the United States.

As for Stress, the relaxation and calmness after intercourse is relieving, if only temporarily. There is typically an increased quality of sleep as well.

Relationship quality can increase due to sex. If sex is good, people are more likely to feel content with the relationship. The intimacy and trust building helps create a strong relationship. People will tend to feel more comfortable with their significant other which will help them to balance a relationship.

All of these things help to reduce physiological and psychological stress that one may have, which leads to s a longer, healthier, and happier life!

http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/10-surprising-health-benefits-of-sex

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kfgLcehHKlw –>Search this link to hear Marvin Gaye’s “Sexual Healing”


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